How Do I Keep My Divorce Process Amicable?
Many people ask me how to keep the divorce amicable early in the process. While an amicable separation or divorce is not always something you can control, there are things you can do to try to keep the process reasonable.
Make Clear Goals, Both Financially and Personally
Going into this process with many unknowns can make for more emotional and difficult decisions. Understanding how the process works and what you want from the beginning can help you set realistic expectations. Within these goals, you must also exercise good judgment and understand that an amicable outcome often includes compromise and “wins” for each side. Decide on your non-negotiables and what you are willing to work with the other side about.
Seek Emotional Advice from your Friends, And Legal Advice from your Attorney
As you start your divorce process, you’ll likely find that friends, family, and even strangers will offer advice on what you should demand from your ex or how to gain an advantage in your case. While this input can be well-intentioned, it might cloud your original goals and intentions. Although the circumstances of your case or your perspective may shift during the process, relying on your inner circle for emotional support rather than legal guidance can help you maintain a more amicable approach.
Think to the Future
Finalizing a divorce can take much longer than people realize, and your original intentions or the reason you and your ex are separating can get lost in the nonsense. Past wounds can cloud your judgment and sometimes make you worry or stress over issues that could be solved creatively or compromised. Trust that your attorney has your best interests in mind and consistently communicate your concerns or fears. A competent and experienced attorney can talk you through your worries and help you see the bigger picture.
Always Put Your Children First
Prioritizing your children can take on various meanings for different families, but it is essential to adopt this mindset if you are navigating a divorce with children involved. It is important to recognize that children should never be caught in the middle of parental conflicts or used as instruments for manipulation. Such practices can be detrimental to their well-being. By focusing on a child-centered approach when developing parenting plans and communicating with your former partner, you can establish a constructive foundation for co-parenting. This approach fosters a supportive environment that can help your children adapt and thrive during this transitional period.
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Beresford Booth lawyers are experienced, dedicated professionals, prepared to answer your questions and guide you through the process based on your needs and goals. As a result of our experience, we provide you practical advice and set reasonable expectations for the process. Together, we develop and implement a case strategy based on your goals. Beresford Booth is a Primerus law firm. Primerus is an international society of top-rated independent law firms.
Family law disputes can be stressful and emotional. Our family law group can take some of the weight off your shoulders. To request a consultation, please contact Beresford Booth at info@beresfordlaw.com or by phone at (425) 776-4100.
